Here is an exercise that I recommend for my couples for homework, I find that it’s a short and quick way to begin uncovering vulnerability and increasing intimacy. Just 5 minutes could make all the difference in your day and marriage!
Here’s a quick step-by-step guide to an exercise we call, “Heads on Pillows.”
Make sure to devote five minutes to this exercise. Be present and engaged with your partner with no distractions.
With clothes on, lie down and face each other at eye level and place both of your heads on a pillow.
Be still, don’t make faces, gestures.
Look into your partner’s eyes and try to see all the way into his or her soul.
Look at your partner continuously without breaking contact.
Allow yourself to let go into the experience beyond any initial feelings until you breakthrough to connection.
Once five minutes are up, talk to your partner about the experience. What feelings did it bring up? Did you experience your partner in a different way?
Many things could happen, you could giggle, cry, or have any number of emotions come up. Whatever happens is all perfectly fine, use this opportunity to connect and talk to your mate and have it be a conversation starter. Talk about whether you both find it easy or hard to be vulnerable and let people fully in, and how you have experienced this all of your life. Remember, continued positive experiences together can be transformative in your marriage!
Well think again… because women are filthy creatures.
There are things women think about… sexual fantasies they visualise in their minds every single day, that would SHOCK you.
Yep. Women are THAT naughty.
And it helps to know just how dirty a woman can be…
Why you ask?
Simple, it’s so (us men) can help them live out their sexual fantasies and be the guy that makes their dreams come true… literally.
So without further ado…
Here are the 10 most popular sexual fantasies a woman has:
1. THREESOME (EXTRA MAN OR WOMAN)
It’s not just men that crave that thressome with another hot girl… women do to! In fact it’s the most common sexual fantasy for women.
Some women like the third party to be a woman, others like it to be a man, but they get a kick out of someone else being in the room that they’ve never had sex with before.
2. DOMINATION (BOTH WAYS)
Another one of top fantasies women have… domination. You’ll usually find mixed feelings about this topic. A lot of women like to be the dominant one where they dress up in latex style dominatrix bodysuits and control the man.
Other women prefer being the submissive ones and letting the man tie them up, blindfold them and have their way with them. Sex toys are a big winner in the domination fantasy.
3. FORCE FANTASY
Also known as the “rape fantasy”… I know creepy right? Some chicks dig the whole forced sex thing, struggling to break free from a big strong (Hugh Jackman) type dude… but secretly enjoying every second and even having an orgasm when she knows she shouldn’t.
4. A STUNNING WOMAN
Yep… you read it right. Some women want to nail a hot lady, like the women you see in Victoria’s Secret for example. I mean who wouldn’t really, they’re pretty much perfect.
The feeling of touching another woman who’s worshiped by men is a HUGE turn on to some girls.
5. DIRTY DANCER
Oooh you little devil! Women may look down on strippers when you ask them about strip joints, but behind the scenes they would LOVE to strip for their man. Giving him the best lap dance he could ever have.
6. GROUP SEX AND ORGIES
Going Swedish baby. A lot of chicks like the swapping partners thing, group sex with people she can trust and playing around with other guys whilst you’re playing around with other women. It’s a taboo subject that makes it all very exciting indeed.
Ever since she was at school and starting fantasising about that manly teacher that every girl wanted… she hasn’t stopped thinking about him bending her over the desk and slapping her ass, telling her she’s a naughty little girl for not doing her homework.
Roleplaying is a massive subject with women, they love it. So make sure you’re acting skills are up to scratch. One of the most common, reportedly, roleplaying being done by couples involve a dead guy wearing chastity cage. It turns out that it’s common than you think.
Ever wanted to make a homemade porno? Well now’s your chance. Some women regularly fantasise about being photographed naked, having sex on camera and showing their sexy curves to the world. So make it happen for her.
9. PUBLIC QUICKIE
The thought of walking a shopping mall… seeing a guy she likes and banging his brains out in the toilet actually turns some women on. The public quickie is a top sexual fantasy because it involves never seeing that guy again and living life on the wild side.
Like other people watching you from the cupboard or outside the bedroom window while you do it? Nope, me either… but some girls seriously love it. So if you like the girl, grab a friend and ask him for a favour 😉
So that’s it, the top 10 most popular sexual fantasies women have. Freaky deaky huh?
Ladies… What is your biggest sexual fantasy and why?
Gents… What’s the freakiest thing a girl has asked you to do because it’s her fantasy?
Toys: fun! Sex: usually great! But put those words together and you run the gamut of reactions from clueless blank looks to passionate enthusiasm to terrified images of spikes in places where there should NOT be sharp objects.
But as millions of people know, there is very little to fear and a lot of fun to be had. Half of women who use sex toys purchased their first toy in their 20s, which as you may notice, is the age of most Literally, Darling readers. Therefore, it is my journalistic duty as Health Editor to report on such important matters, because I know in the age of online review overload, there are lots of questions.
Adam & Eve, the nation’s largest marketer of adult products, has offered up a great infographic as starting point—and reassurance that sex toys are quite common (and have been around for 28,000 years!). They also granted us access to their resident sexpert, Dr. Kat (yes, she actually has a PhD in Human Sexuality/Clinical Sexology from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality), to answer some of LD’s most pressing questions about sex toys.
1. What should beginners look for in a sex toy?
Dr. Kat: “Think about how you masturbate and what stimulation feels the best. Clitoral, vaginal, G-Spot, anal? Then begin looking at toy categories that target these areas.
Read reviews. There can be a wide variety of power options and intensities. Some people prefer stronger vibration so they may want to choose a vibrator that plugs in; others might like indirect or mild stimulation. Choose a rechargeable vibe if you don’t want to deal with batteries. Many better products have USB options. Avoid plug ins if you don’t like wires.”
2. What kind of price range should we be looking at to be sure we get something high quality (like, is the material of an $8 vibrator eventually going to give me cancer or something)?
Dr. Kat: “Although research has been inconclusive on the direct relationship between sex toy material and cancer, it is assumed that there are materials that are more body friendly than others. Silicone, glass and certain metals are considered higher quality [If you have sensitive skin, you probably want to shop in this category]. Granted, some people don’t mind using lower grade plastic sex toys as they will probably not be coming into continued contact with the vaginal membranes—you won’t be wearing it all day. Lower priced toys may be a good way to initially figure out what stimulation works well for you; then you can upgrade later on. If you want to start with quality, there are plenty of mid-range products ($25-45) that can meet your needs.”
3. Do you have any lube advice?
Dr. Kat: “Use lube! Lubricant makes everything more slippery, and will undoubtedly make any sex toy experience more enjoyable. A toy that feels too big or vibrates too strongly might feel just right with the addition of a little lube. The main thing to remember is to test it on your skin to be sure you don’t have any reactions to it, preferably on the inside of your wrist versus the sensitive skin in your vagina. Although water based lubes seem to do the trick for most people, make sure that if you are sensitive that there are no additives like dyes, colors or alcohol. You can also go organic if you prefer. Be aware that some oils and silicone lubes may make some sex toy materials break down, especially if they aren’t cleaned properly.”
4. Speaking of, can you tell them more about keeping toys clean—especially keeping in mind most of us have roommates?
Dr. Kat: “Keep a good anti-bacterial soap near your sink. There are also specialty toy cleaners on the market. You can use condoms on your toys if they are easier to dispose of versus clean. If your bathroom isn’t en suite, keep a small clean towel to wrap your used toy in to take it to and from the bathroom for cleaning. Air drying toys tends to be best, but if you don’t feel comfortable keeping them out in your room, make sure you dry them completely (every nook and cranny) with a clean towel.
Store them in a cool, dark and dry location. Make sure you don’t allow your toys to touch in storage. Sometimes the materials may interact with one another and cause them to break down. There are even anti-bacterial bags and incognito storage units designed specifically for this purpose. Take the batteries out if you don’t use your toys regularly. Batteries can corrode, ruining your toy.
Also, don’t forget that you can transfer certain STIs via unclean sex toys. Try not to share them with your partner unless you use a condom or wash them thoroughly. Never transfer your sex toy from your anus directly into your vagina as this may cause an infection.”
5. Do vaginal toys interfere with an IUD at all?
Dr. Kat: “Typically vaginal toys do not cause any issues with IUDs. However, if for some reason your IUD wasn’t placed properly or dislodges, I could see how there might be an issue. Also, if you are more prone to infections, make sure you keep your toys very clean so that additional pathogens don’t make their way up the string.”
6. When and how should beginners incorporate sex toys into a relationship?
Dr. Kat: “You may not want to break out your vibe the first time you have sex with someone, but I do suggest that you introduce your partner to it within the first few times you have sex. This way, they’ll know that you already incorporate the use of a toy and may be less intimidated by it. If you wait too long, you run the risk of your partner thinking you are hiding it from them. Plus you will potentially miss the opportunity to be more orgasmic.
You may want to purposely leave your toy out one night so it is readily accessible and/or ask them if you can show them how to use it on you. Too many women don’t do this and then their partners end up never learning how to pleasure them with their own toys.”
7. Any other advice for sex toy beginners?
Dr. Kat: “Go solo. Play with your toy alone before introducing it into couples play, this way you learn what feels good and can show your partner.
Try one toy that does several things. Instead of committing to one type of toy, try a toy that vibrates and is insertable, or one that can be used in a harness and for anal stimulation. You might find that you really like to use your new G-spot vibrator for stimulating your nipples.
Start small. When buying a toy for insertion, it’s better to err on the small side. If it’s too big you probably won’t play with it, but a toy that’s a little too small can still bring hours of enjoyment.
If at first you don’t succeed, try again. If one sex toy doesn’t thrill you, use that experience to decide what you do want the next time around: different size, stronger vibration, softer material. Testing several different toys is the best way to find what works.”
Whether you are going to a business meeting or summer vacation, you need relaxation. Therefore, most of the people are watching porn or consuming alcohol. As per researchers, If your body gets stress then either you watch porn or prefer sex. However, if you have no partner for sex, then escort services can be a reliable option for you. There are thousands of companies are out there that are providing hot and sexy escorts. If you want to satisfy your sexual requirements, then you must opt for the hot escort.
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A delivery does a lot with your body. Your uterus stretches out, your skin stretches, you can take a different posture and your pelvic floor muscles become slack. All not so bad, but it is important that you train this last group. If you have given birth, you will often receive tips and tricks from your maternity assistant to make them stronger. Good news: there are also yoga exercises for the pelvic floor muscles! Call it yoni yoga or vaginal yoga and you can use the yoni egg. So what size of yonieggs to use?
If you do not train your pelvic floor muscles, you may suffer from them. Especially as the number of children you get increases. For example, you may suffer from mild incontinence, a difficult bowel movement, and fatigue, pain during intercourse and pain in the lower abdomen. You do not feel empowered as a woman and you can even feel insecure. All is not nice. A stone egg, usually made of nephrite better known as ‘jade’ that you have to bring in and with which you can strengthen the muscles.
It may take some getting used to think of inserting tampon first time but it seems to give you a lot of strength afterwards. It is better for the blood circulation and the female energy is perfect. Well, how do you work? Buy a yoni egg first. You can buy them from various online shops, but you might have a store nearby where they sell these eggs. These are often the more spiritual stores. You can choose from different types of stone, so look where you prefer.
Every egg comes with a manual, so read it carefully. Somewhere it feels crazy to ‘bring in’ something, because maybe you’re afraid you’ll lose it. So make it a ritual and find a quiet place. In the evening before you go to sleep is also a good one. You lie down your back and bring it in. Put your feet on the ground and move your pelvis up and down. This will cause the egg to move. This strengthens the muscles. You can also honor a piece of string through the egg, so that you can “squeeze” it yourself inside and out. It’s worth the shot! There are also website, where a lot of interesting information can be found. It is certainly a good and beneficial exercise, even if you think it is a bit too sticky. Just try!
We now know what you do not want to stop in your smooch. But what if you do want to put something in it and that does not work because it’s a little dry down there? All shame on the side, today we make lubricant!
Gut man, what do you think up again? You have to be a bit of a hippie for it. But well, goat wool socks are nice and warm in the winter. And admit: this is the ultimate DIY. But first let’s see why you would actually want to, make yourself a lubricant.
The vagina naturally causes moisture and mucus. Fortunately, otherwise it squeaks when cycling. There are several causes for a drier vagina. For example, the production of vaginal fluid and mucus differs during your cycle. You start with blood of course not from your vagina but from your womb. After that, more and more fertile mucus is produced until you glide away from your chair just before ovulation. The mucus is thin and slippery, you can draw wires from it that may sound a little dirty but honest: you just hear this as a woman. These are the days of panty liners and natural wash cloths.
This fertile mucus forms as little barrier as possible for any sperm passing along, so that you can be fertilized after all, just about the biological function of a woman, even if not everyone is looking forward to it. If you do not fertilize, you dry up. At some point, they even become mucus plugs. This is the moment when the lubricant is pulled out of the cupboard, because even though you are excited: your fluid glands do not always cooperate. The time in your cycle therefore expires.
Another reason for a drier vagina is the transition. Less estrogen is produced and as a result the mucus-producing cells in the vagina are less active. Finally, an underlying cause can also play a role.
Make it yourself
Commercial lubricants have quite a few drawbacks. They often contain substances that you do not want in your butt plug and they often leave residues that are not romantic to wash out of your bush the next morning. Or out of your sheets. They are therefore not suitable if you do not use them out of romantic but for practical reasons for example, to insert your menstrual cup or to keep the daily moisturizing a little bit. It can be made in different ways and is very easy. Grab your pancake, put on your waitress’s uniform and let’s go!
It is very simple: Linseed has mucus, more than you and me together. They are released when you cook them. Take 2 tablespoons Linseed whole, not broken and a good mug of water. Put them in a pan and put it on the stove until it boils. Let it simmer for a while until it becomes slimy. Throw it through a tea strainer and let it cool down. It can be kept for about a week in the fridge.
If you find it too much trouble to cook your lubricant, then there is a plant that she already has ready-made for you. The Aloe vera is a healthy plant that has experienced quite hype. Pay attention therefore that you get the good plant at a garden center. They do well on the windowsill and then make thick leaves. Cut a leaf and peel it. That is important, because there is bitter, yellow juice just under the skin. The gel is wrapped around the slimy, transparent plant material.
This is quite simple: just take a bottle of olive oil to bed or a jar of coconut oil for a tropical night. Works fine, but gives stains and you cannot use it in combination with condoms or toys, because latex and silicone cannot stand fat.
Glycerin and xanthenes gum
This way requires a little more search, because you have to buy the ingredients. But once you have them at home, you can make fresh lubricant within a minute, 100% natural and with a pleasant consistency. Make sure you have vegetable glycerin; often you can buy the ingredients at a natural shop or old-fashioned drugstore.
The recipe is simple: 1 tablespoon of vegetable glycerin, a half teaspoon xanthenes gum (stirring until everything is dissolved) and then 1 tablespoon of water (stirring again). Voila: lubricant on the spot without vegetable hippie rituals. One disadvantage: glycerin attracts moisture, and can therefore dry out precious parts. Not everyone suffers from that, but that is a matter of trying.
Since you do not add a preservative, you can only store all these lubricants for a short time maximum one week in the refrigerator.
With all this home care you can choose to add ingredients that increase the appetite. You can use essential oil of spearmint for a cool stimulus experience or clove for a warm sensuous stimulus. But beware, because on the quantities you see above, one drop of essential oil is far too much! So know what you are doing and only use good quality oil. Alternatively, you can also add a minimum amount of pepper clove or ginger powder. It is less strong but yet tasty.
According to a survey, half of the women have sex with their clothes on: here are the sexy accessories to wear for pleasure
A skirt curled on the hips, a t-shirt rose to discover the breasts…
Having sex with clothes on has always had a very particular eroticism, dictated by the haste and the need for an instinct that cannot wait for the body to undress to seek union, to seek pleasure. It is the representation of the passion that upsets even the most punished.
It is therefore not surprising to read that, according to a survey conducted by MyCelebrityFashion.co.uk on 1500 people, 50% of women prefer to have sex with at least one garment on them and that 54% of them claim to do so for a “question of image” “, which men do not mind at all (36%), just because they do not take off (completely) the clothes – even the pants, just lower them – adds a thrill of transgression to sex. Perhaps, this being the case, we should not even talk about clothes or lingerie, rather, sexy accessories.
At this point, it is important to ask what to wear : 68% prefer the bra , 69% a negligee , 40% high heels and 31% a pair of culottes , even sporty, from the look a bit ‘masculine. With the use of the Inflatable latex, as offered by laidtex, the options are perfect now.
If you want to dare, I also suggest:
Atie, with which you can also improvise some bondage games
A men’s shirt, stolen from him to smell it and leave yours as a reminder
A colored wig or a mask (even if they are not actual clothes)
A pair of stockings or a garter belt
Obviously without anything underneath. They make their “slut” figure
Intervention / The erotic fantasies are an excellent starting engine of desire and sexual excitement. Sometimes they have the form of images, of small red light films for “personal use”.
They can be intentionally recalled to increase the excitement itself, during a love act or masturbation, or they can come suddenly, leaving us surprised and sometimes even upset, above all, when to the imagination is added the component of the forbidden, even inner prohibition.
At first glance, erotic fantasies may seem paradoxical. If we observe them closely, we actually discover that in them we tend to live what in our daily life remains in the shade and that we tend to compensate in that way.
So, to be clear, those in life have many responsibilities, including work, dreams, for example, to be subdued by a woman or a dominant man; the janitor of being a rich businessman who has at his feet various irresistible women; the most extreme feminist to be taken strongly; the husband of a brunette with big breasts imagines a blonde with small breasts, and so on..
The various serologicalresearches, from the 80s onwards, have widely revealed the contents of the most common erotic fantasies between men and women. For men : making love with a partner different from their own; to make and receive oral sex; make love with two women or watch them as they flirt with each other; have an adventure with a stranger; raping a prostitute; make a couple exchange; make love with a pregnant woman; having group sex; being “enslaved” and subdued by a woman.
For women, the most recurring fantasies emerged are: being taken strongly or submissively; to make and receive oral sex; make love with another woman; make love with two men; exchange the partner; go around without slip; have more orgasms and in different ways; to seduce a man in front of his woman; do something forbidden and in unusual places; have an adventure with a black man or remember previous experiences.
What we imagine is not always part of what we would like to put into practice in our sexuality: it is here that we find the difference between what belongs to the narrowest sphere of desire, from what remains most in the mental sphere of fantasy.
To simplify, we “insiders”, we tend to distinguish fantasies in three categories: 1. those that identify with a specific desire, which one wants to realize and act in one’s life; 2. those that closely touch it, and that under certain conditions of protection and security, one would like to explore; 3. those obsessive fantasies (fortunately extremely reduced in percentage) that in some cases recall a traumatic event, in an attempt to rework it and overcome it.
The erotic imagery is an important indicator of psychosexual well-being, so much so that those who specialize in sexology often use it to support individuals and couples to overcome any sexual dysfunction present (not organic), such as: the decline in desire, erectile dysfunction (1 man in 5, – an increasingly frequent phenomenon even among under- 40s); premature ejaculation (2 to 4 out of 10); female anorgasmia (2 out of 10 women).
It still happens too often, however, that sexual fantasies are experienced with feelings of guilt and shame. Especially when the subject of the imagination is not made up of one’s partner.
Research and good clinical practices show, on the contrary, that the longer a relationship is lasting, the more partners need to resort to “divergent”fantasies, with a protagonist of his own fantasy different from his own.
Studies and scientific research, related to sexual imagery, show that, with the end of the falling-in-love phase, even after 2 years of cohabitation or stable couples, there is a tendency to “replace ” sometimes one’s boyfriend, the his partner with the unknown, the actress, the neighbor … The reasons are physiological .
Changing partners in their fantasies is not a betrayal. It only serves to keep the desire burning, to “put some pepper” in one’s relationship and to preserve the couple itself.
If both partners are trapped in a monotonous sexual routine, sharing their erotic fantasies can help: make one another or the other of their erotic universe more aware; to liven up the relationship; create new foundations in terms of complicity and play, and rekindle the ardor of the past.
When the phase of ‘ falling in love ends physiologically, the desire to transgress spontaneously emerges, to explore some of those fantasies that appear with greater insistence.
For modesty, embarrassment or shame of being misjudged by the other, it is silent. The erotic-sexual relationship enters a stalemate, with some knock-on effects on the couple’s relationship, which gradually wears off.
The vitality of the couple flattens out. The need arises to resort to the outside, in secret, and find a lover to experience what the couple cannot live and achieve.
Sex toys include not only stimulants, but also sex furniture and even underwear. However, if there are no questions to the latter – take them and carry them, then there are obviously questions to the first paragraph.
By type of use, we will divide stimulators into three groups: classic toys imitating a member balls (anal, vaginal), double strap-ons.
The first group of vintage sex toys includes dildos, plugs, and vibrators. The sex toys for men include such a device as prostate stimulants. We also rank him in this category. The rules for these toys are as follows. When unpacking, you need to clean the device according to the instructions. Cleaning must also be carried out before and after use. What means for this to use are always indicated.
Before use, you should examine the texture of the device with your hands in order to get used to it. If you have a vibrator in your hands, it is advised to first try it on erogenous zones. Move them, check the intensity of work. And only then immerse. Moreover, to introduce a vibrator into yourself should be at low speed especially if you do it for the first time.
As with regular sex, sex toys for women should be injected only if the vagina or anus is sufficiently moist. In a situation with different sexual devices, you can use your own lubricant or water-based lubricant. Butt plugs owned by call girls are the common types.
Anal and vaginal balls
These toys are identical in name, but completely different in form. A pair of heavy balls, like the one at lovegasm, is used for the vagina. They allow you to have fun while playing with them and having sex with your partner in the future. The thing is that these balls train the muscles of the vagina. In terms of hygiene, they are treated the same way as with classic toys.
Anal balls are a few balls on a plastic string. They are injected alternately and slowly into the anus. Pull out with the same caution. Do not use alternately for anal and vaginal passage.
Double Strap on: Sex Toys for Two
Double strap-ons are modern sex toys for two. Allow to enjoy at the same time. Often used by lesbian couples. One end of the strap-on is inserted into the dominant partner in the vagina or anus, and the other into the subordinate. The couple chooses who moves or who moves the strapon arm. The toy requires exactly the same care as any vaginal toys. Do not use silicone grease for silicone products.
It is often wrongly imagined that Cro-Magnon’s men were stupid, brutal and idiotic. Do you deceive, in the Upper Paleolithic, there was already evidence of refinement including in the erotic universe. As evidence, a phallus of polished stone found during archaeological excavations in the region of Ulm, Germany, would be the oldest sextoy in the world. Dated 28,000 years ago, the sex object is 20 cm long (7.8 inches) and 3 cm wide (1.1 inches). We do not know in which context this artificial phallus was used, but its function is undeniable.
It is also during this period, in the Upper Paleolithic, that Venus begins to appear, like that of Willendorf (25 000 years), with its apparent feminine sexual attributes. Maybe they were used to excite men of the time, much like our erotic magazines and our pornographic sites.
Already in the Neolithic, the sexual objects are more sophisticated and the representation more faithful to reality as this phallus carved in antler, found during archaeological excavations in Sweden, which dates back 6,000 years.
In ancient times, the use of sexual objects is already more widespread. Egyptians, Greeks, Romans, Chinese used occasional artificial phalluses to give themselves pleasure.
However, it will be necessary to wait until 1902 for the first commercially available electric vibrator, a creation of the Hamilton Beach Company, which will provide the women with new sensations although the device was not very erotic at first glance.
The 5 most popular sex toys of women and how not to be permanently replaced by them
In adult films, sex toys are very popular. In real life, it’s another story. It’s not all women who play with vibrators and other things like that. However, that does not mean that no woman uses it. According to 2010 statistics from TheirToys.com, 44% of women ages 18 to 60 have ever used a sex toy. It’s almost one in two women. The statistics do not say if all these women were single, but there are probably some who used one of these machines when they were in a relationship. We do not want to alarm you, gentlemen, but your spouse may have one. Who knows? Maybe she already showed you?
Some men may be afraid, some day, to become obsolete and to be replaced in whole or in part by one of these silicone objects. To reassure you, we will show you five sex toys popular among women, and most importantly, what to do, not to be replaced by them (even if there is little chance that it happens).
It is undoubtedly the most popular toy. Very reliable, and offered in different sizes, the vibrator offers a lot of freedom to madam. She can choose the speed and vary the pressure.
How to replicate: You will be able to play with the intensity of the report. Start slowly and gradually increase the pace. You can go back to the sweetness before going off again fiercely. You can also change position and ask her what she prefers.
It is a small vibrator as big as a thumb and sometimes reminiscent of a shell. It was designed to stimulate his “bean”, which can allow him to reach orgasm in a fairly short time (obviously, it can vary from one woman to another …).
How to replicate: Instead of wanting to take off your bobbles and get on it, take your time. Make your hands shiny. Go between his legs. Do not hesitate to make her languish. Take breaks. When you feel that you have long enough, go with your hand or with your tongue.
It is a vibrator with two “rods”: one to simulate the “coffee bean” of the lady and the other for the point G. It is therefore more intense than a normal vibrator.
How to replicate: Instead of always focusing in the same place, vary the pleasures. Do not be afraid to stimulate two places at the same time, both during the preliminaries and during the act.
The dildo (or “dildo”)
Sometimes women also like simplicity. This is where the dildo comes in. This is what comes closest to a man’s gear. But then, why would she use that?
How to replicate: Try to involve him more. Ask her if the intensity, movement or depth are correct for her. Maybe she was just too shy to talk about it before.
This is not a real sex toy, but some women like to use this kind of accessories when they are alone.
How to replicate: You can simply see with her if she wants to use it during the report. At worst, you can go shopping in a sex shop. You will find all kinds of products made for couples, like chocolate showers or massage products that smell of fruit. It may bring some spice to your couple!
Remember, if you have found a sex toy in her dresser that does not mean she is not satisfied. Maybe she just wants to explore her body and find out what kind of stimulation she prefers.
Of course, we just showed you how to “replicate” a sex toy, but in reality we just wanted you to see the discovery of a vibrator in a more positive than negative way. In short, we wanted you to ask questions about what happens in the bedroom at night and see if you could bring a little spice to your relationship.
In fact, if a woman really came to replace you with one of these things, it would probably hide a much deeper problem in the couple (either from you or from her). After all, it’s a little unhealthy to prefer a rubber object to flesh.